Parental Alienation Attorney in Long Island and NYC
Protect Your Bond with Your Child
Parental alienation typically occurs during
child custody disputes, when one parent attempts to undermine or destroy the relationship
that the child has with the other parent. In essence, this act involves
manipulating a child into believing that one parent is a better parent
than the other. In order to prevent parental alienation syndrome (PAS),
it is imperative to understand exactly what it is, as well as recognize
signs that it could be occurring in your family.
Signs of Parental Alienation
Growing up, children look up to and admire their parents. When children
become involved with parental alienation, it is possible for the child
to become confused, untrusting of either parent, and alienation can lead
to severe psychological damage, domestic violence, and abuse.
Some signs of parental alienation include, but are not limited to:
- One parent asking about the other parent’s private life
- Asking a child to choose one parent over the other
- One parent withholding visitation from the other
- Hostility and distaste for one parent reinforced by the other
These actions are likely to have a negative impact on your child, leading
them to believe that if he or she has a good time with one parent, they
will be punished or chastised by the other. As your child grows and develops,
it is essential that they are brought up in an environment where they
have a positive and loving relationship with both of their parents.
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How to Address Parental Alienation
Parental alienation syndrome is a serious and commonplace concern throughout
just about any divorce that involves a couple that share children together.
PAS may even occur without any negative input from either spouse; instead,
the child can experience great emotional confusion and decide on their
own, consciously or subconsciously, to begin alienating one parent. If
you feel as if you are a targeted parent, you should know that PAS often
does not resolve on its own accord. You will need to take steps to help
your child overcome this misplaced bias.
Tips, hints, and practices an alienated parent should know include:
Catalogue events: Start keeping track of specific moments of parental alienation for reexamination
later. You can use something as simple as a journal to make notes about
what happened. This record of events should be reviewed with trusted friends
or family who can validate your concerns about PAS. It can also be brought
to child psychologists if such therapeutic sessions become necessary.
Raise your own standards: A child with PAS will exploit and exaggerate any perceived mistakes the
alienated parent commits. If you want to regain their trust and support,
do your best to remove any incidents they can scrutinize. This means never
showing up late to picking them up from visitation, never showing aggression
during arguments, always keeping your living space organized, and so on.
Avoid accusations: Parents who try to speak directly to their children about being alienated
will most likely be alienated even further. Children expressing PAS behaviors
are often extremely defensive, and trying to argue with them about changing
their habits is bound to backfire to some degree. Hold onto hope that
things will get better, remain empathetic towards your child’s emotional
state, and give them space while you figure out what else you can do.
Speak to your ex-spouse: If you believe the source of your child’s PAS is your ex-spouse trying
to manipulate them, you need to reach out to them to have a discussion.
If you are not comfortable with this prospect, you may want to ask a mutual
friend to be the bridge between you both. Sometimes an ex-spouse may not
even realize they were encouraging PAS and making them aware of the problem
can fix it.
Professional assistance: Are your efforts to address or reduce parental alienation not making any
progress? It might be time to consider hiring professionals for help.
You can talk to child psychologists or family therapy specialists for
emotional concerns. If the PAS is sourced from your ex-spouse and they
know it, think about retaining a Long Island divorce lawyer to learn where
your legal options lie in that regard.
Concerned for Your Child? Let Our Seasoned Legal Team Help!
Contact our office immediately if you believe that there is an issue regarding
parental alienation in your family.
Our team of family law attorneys at Hedayati Law Group P.C. will fight for the
best interests of your child and seek the proper justice that you and
your family deserve. We have
more than 80 years of combined experience, and we know the warning signs and what needs to be done.