If you share child custody with your former spouse, you will have to learn how to effectively co-parent with him or her and make decisions on behalf of your children. In cases where your relationship might be somewhat contentious, this might not be the easiest task, especially if you end up disagreeing on pertinent issues. However, with an open mind and a willingness to work together for the sake of your children’s wellbeing, you and your ex-spouse can make this situation run more smoothly.
Here are some tips on how to manage joint custody during the school year:
- Focus on providing consistency: Regardless of the state of your relationship with your ex-spouse, consistency is critical for your children and you must both always seek to provide that. Create a plan together that outlines where your children will stay during the week, on weekends, and where they will go every day after school if a parent cannot immediately pick them up. More importantly, stick to the plan you create. With a 50-50 child custody arrangement, this might be difficult, but switching up the children’s itinerary too frequently will only confuse them and inflict more stress on them during what is undoubtedly already a difficult situation.
- Planning the holidays: Of course, children get breaks and holidays during the school year and you and your ex-spouse will have to address these scenarios. Planning out which parent gets to spend time with the children can be an even more contentious issue for parents, which is why you will want to have specific provisions in your parenting agreement that require either party to provide notice if he or she plans to take the children out of town for a vacation during the holidays. Planning out the holidays far in advance will reduce the possibility of getting involved in a heated argument with your ex-spouse. If something unexpected does arise, however, you can always make changes to a custody agreement and consult with an experienced child custody attorney.
Experienced Child Custody Attorneys in Long Island
As parents, your children are your priority, which is why the issue of custody is often a great source of contention for parents who both believe they know what is in their children’s best interests. To resolve these issues, turn to an experienced Long Island child custody attorney at Hedayati Law Group, P.C. Our goal is to guide you and answer any questions you might have about your case.
With over 100 years of combined experience, you can rest assured that our legal team will be able to effectively represent you throughout this difficult time.
Contact our office today at (631) 880-6440 to schedule a free consultation.